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Sometimes I will go out, and I will see a group of 2-5 homosexual males. In addition to this core group of homosexuals, I will see one heterosexual female. She does everything with her core group of homosexual friends–goes to relevant scene parties, hits up the trendiest gay hotspots, and even goes out to brunch with her homosexual friends. I am not sure what this means about her. I think this means she can be labeled as a “FAG HAG” (aka “FG HG”).
I am not sure what it means to be a “fag hag.” Maybe you are in a transitional point in your life. You can’t really identify with any of ur girl friends n e more, and you haven’t found the perfect man for you, so u turn to a group of homosexuals who are ‘longing’ for the same kind of dream man that u r. It seems weird when 2 homosexual males are ‘bffs’, but they don’t want to be in a relationship with one another, so they are just ‘friends who accidentally hook up sometimes, but understand that they both see themselves ending up with some1 better.’ Seems like a chill agreement.
Maybe homosexuals are just more compassionate than heterosexual males and lovers. Maybe they have more in common with females than traditional bros. Maybe they are better lovers than the traditional male. Maybe the faghag just wants some1 u can ‘open up’ 2, and talk with. It seems like it is comfortable, like u can cuddle with some1 and watch a redbox movie without him trying to ‘fuck you.’
Seems like it would be fun to be bffs with a couple of homosexuals, because then life would be ‘just like a show on Bravo.’ U could spend all day critiquing the way people look, talking about ur freshly implemented health regimen, and go out on the weekends to get ‘fucking drunk.’ I have heard that some ‘fag hags’ enjoy to ‘make out’ with their gay male friends for attention/sexual pleasure.
Not sure if it is good to ‘brand urself’ as a fag hag, or to let it organically happen over the course of 1-3 years.
Does ‘being a fag hag’ last forever? What if u get in2 a relationship? Will ur homo friends resent u/turn ur back on u?
Do u know any fag hags? What are they like?
Are fag hags always ugly, or sometimes ‘hot’?
Do u feel sad when u see a fag hag who has a ‘more to love’ type of build?
Is the faghagial relationship more likely to generate ‘authentic love’ than a traditional relationship?
Has any1 met a real life ‘gay person’ and do they act the same as they do on TV?
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51 Comments
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long live communism
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//////////Reply by runningcolors
//////////Posted August 19th, 2009 at 12:59 pm
@doug, checkin’ out my dougie like she patty mayonnaiseee
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snded niobdy else wants to post
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this post really realy really suckss
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//////////Reply by srbglfklb
//////////Posted August 19th, 2009 at 3:16 pm
@lolme, ye
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//////////Reply by panic at the electro
//////////Posted August 19th, 2009 at 8:07 pm
@srbglfklb, disagree, fggt.
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how about nobody cares abotu anyones sexual preference and if you do nobody cares about you
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//////////Reply by EOOEEOOE
//////////Posted August 19th, 2009 at 1:15 pm
@shitgaze[blazephaze], sounds like an awfully extreme generalization, fggt
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//////////Reply by shitgaze
//////////Posted August 19th, 2009 at 2:12 pm
@EOOEEOOE, lol this website’s still a joke fggt#2
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//////////Reply by DRIOWA
//////////Posted August 19th, 2009 at 2:13 pm
@shitgaze, you, shitgaze, are the joke.
//////////Reply by shitgaze
//////////Posted August 19th, 2009 at 3:01 pm
fine! we will get through this
what is this i dont even
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but frlz: good topic, awful post.
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//////////Reply by zzzzz
//////////Posted August 19th, 2009 at 1:26 pm
@EOOEEOOE, awful topic, should have talked about FWBs (Friends with Benefits). That’s sOOO confusing…
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i think animal collective is a pretty cool guy. eh kills capitalism and doesnt afraid of anything.
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//////////Reply by lise
//////////Posted August 19th, 2009 at 1:32 pm
@Varg,
lol anon
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//////////Reply by ripples
//////////Posted August 19th, 2009 at 1:42 pm
@Varg, h8 you. keep your mnstrmer internet memes out of HRO until they’re old enough to be funny [via irony]
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//////////Reply by skybeard
//////////Posted August 19th, 2009 at 2:08 pm
@ripples,
4chan is for masses of ‘underground ppl’ though. it’s probably more authentic than this place [via xxtreme pics/fucking with people/loving hardcore metal/self-aware nerdiness]
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//////////Reply by pregnant
//////////Posted August 19th, 2009 at 8:08 pm
@skybeard, stoked@ how both these places are separate ‘registers’ or whatever and an intersection actually exists but is actively repressed, its uncanny [via freud]
//////////Reply by quoi de fuck
//////////Posted August 20th, 2009 at 2:10 pm
@skybeard,
what’s authentic about a bunch of 16 year-olds making fun of people because they are aware that no one will ever really know who they are?
lol @ the truth of pregnant’s post.
hope that no one will think that it is weird that i am commenting on my own post…
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//////////Reply by Herpesterrunnoff
//////////Posted August 19th, 2009 at 9:36 pm
@carles, ur weird.
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regina spektor is choking ony my balls like ur site is being choked by her ads
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h8 fag hags yall [via salon.com]
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//////////Reply by randyandi
//////////Posted August 19th, 2009 at 4:35 pm
@ne pas, fag hags are too insecure to have blunt, straight friends so they find gay men who will tell them they look hawt when they’re actually wearing ripped tights and their cleavage is gag-reflex inducing
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//////////Reply by cobones
//////////Posted August 20th, 2009 at 2:34 am
@ne pas, what article
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//////////Reply by ne pas
//////////Posted August 20th, 2009 at 7:15 am
@cobones, via the ‘lead article’ on tuesday’s ‘today in salon’ email. via http://tinyurl.com/q6q4qb
ps. is it ghey 2 use ‘tinyurl’? see a lot of ppl using othr similar ‘services’.
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//////////Reply by ne pas
//////////Posted August 20th, 2009 at 7:15 am
@ne pas, or whatever
this post was kinda weak. We can’t win them all though, i know how it is.
fghg like to touch homosexuals because they can’t get any heterosexuals. I’ve seen a couple in college and they are usually fat and ugly.
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fag hag: unattractive/fat girl who has a lot of gay friends to tell them they’re bootyful.
fruit fly: attractive/cute/indie girl who has a lot of gay friends because they are fun and like to ‘binge drink,’ ‘tumble around,’ and ‘be glamourous’. also you can sleep in the same bed as them without them trying to ‘stick it in thurr bum’
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//////////Reply by Liz
//////////Posted August 19th, 2009 at 1:55 pm
@lise, <3 the fruit fly title… I will adopt that as my own from now on…. besides, I hate saying fag anyways
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//////////Reply by blank techno
//////////Posted August 19th, 2009 at 2:00 pm
@Liz, think im jst gonna call u fag fly instead. sounds funnie
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//////////Reply by Neg
//////////Posted August 19th, 2009 at 6:12 pm
@blank techno, unlol
im gai and i have 2 FG HGs. they r prty cool and rly pretty. i have 2 fake and be their bf in ‘scary social situation’ aka when they r getting hit on by creepers at clubs.
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this technique is also used by ‘old mainstream women’ 2 meet young men+’acquire semen’
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I go out with my gays all the time… because I love them, not just because they’re gay. And I’m engaged, so the being single and waiting for my dream man thing doesn’t really apply…. We just enjoy each other’s company and love to party.
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//////////Reply by blank techno
//////////Posted August 19th, 2009 at 2:02 pm
^wow wut a fag fly for reel
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//////////Reply by Liz
//////////Posted August 19th, 2009 at 2:03 pm
@blank techno, I am what I am.
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//////////Reply by Liz
//////////Posted August 19th, 2009 at 2:04 pm
@blank techno, I am what I am. Also my man doesn’t have to worry about me being out with these guys super late or nething
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//////////Reply by gnar sesh
//////////Posted August 19th, 2009 at 2:10 pm
@Liz, not the place to defend urself for hangin w/ gheys.
//////////Reply by 555
//////////Posted August 19th, 2009 at 2:12 pm
@Liz,
u seem like a chill broad
//////////Reply by blank techno
//////////Posted August 19th, 2009 at 2:13 pm
@Liz, ur man must not give u enuf of the rite attention. mebe ur marrying 4 economic security ovr emotional?
//////////Reply by Liz
//////////Posted August 19th, 2009 at 2:20 pm
@blank techno,
sounds like someone’s jealous…
//////////Reply by blank techno
//////////Posted August 19th, 2009 at 3:07 pm
@Liz, u sound old ):
//////////Reply by Liz
//////////Posted August 19th, 2009 at 3:13 pm
@blank techno,
I’m 24.
//////////Reply by blank techno
//////////Posted August 19th, 2009 at 3:30 pm
@Liz, nd ur engaged? now u jst sound lame
//////////Reply by Liz
//////////Posted August 19th, 2009 at 3:41 pm
@blank techno,
You seem to have a lot of angry and aggression built up. I’m sorry your life is so meaningless and empty that you feel the need to attack people based on their happiness.
//////////Reply by fullscale008
//////////Posted August 19th, 2009 at 4:07 pm
@Liz, Yall just emotionally castrated a kid
//////////Reply by xoxo
//////////Posted August 19th, 2009 at 4:42 pm
@ Liz, h8 u
//////////Reply by blank techno
//////////Posted August 19th, 2009 at 6:09 pm
@Liz, u seem mad. mebe its a touchy subject, ur degrading relationship w/ ur fiancee. y else get so upset over high guy commenting on blog site. im sorry ur so insecure abt ur troubld relationship u need gay men to fill an emotional void ur boyfriend wont ):
//////////Reply by Petypete
//////////Posted August 19th, 2009 at 6:25 pm
@Liz, sum1 sounds butthurt
//////////Reply by WOOF
//////////Posted August 19th, 2009 at 6:30 pm
@Petypete, i agree she sounds hurt in her butt
i know a super hawt fghg. it’s all about attention. and feeling ‘safe’. no pressure of ‘getting fucked’
what a waste. i would totally pressure hr into fcking
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//////////Reply by skybeard
//////////Posted August 19th, 2009 at 2:20 pm
@shit hed,
yeah, all about creating safety and then getting drunk and listening to her complain about ‘not getting any for a while’ and then you agreeing [via 'amen girl'] and saying ‘yeah men in this town suck’ and then proposing to stick it in as a ‘meaningless fuck-relief’ for yall both. might be worth it to pretend to be a fag for this.
this is called the ‘bloodhound gang theory’
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//////////Reply by walf
//////////Posted August 19th, 2009 at 2:23 pm
@skybeard, yar the gheigh’s fk all the hawt broads, and all the while think to themselves ‘i wish this was a hairy male bunghole. le sigh.’ wasteful, indeed.
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//////////Reply by lise
//////////Posted August 20th, 2009 at 11:28 pm
@skybeard,
true fag hags/fruit flies would realize you weren’t gheyyyy almost immediately. you can just tell when someone isn’t sexually attracted to you. at all. gheyss are like girlfriends, only with penises.
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my FG HGz & i like to go out and cruise for dik (via whisky shotz& PBR tall boyz)
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I was gonna post that I know a few hot fg hg’s, but apparently I am more acquainted with the gentler ‘fruit fly.’ Love that & nvr heard it b4, LOL! Gnrlly, yer avg fg hg is a pork roast, or at very least a little baby beluga.
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cant shake dem bitches off
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yeah yeah yeah’s karen o is a real fg hg like fking emo girls in hs wearing converse on myspace
carles you are so chill!
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i’m a total fag hag.no shame.
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more will, less grace! [via must see tv]
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only fghg i know is skinny, pale, and posts pictures of her mysterious bruises on myspace.
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shame on carles on american appy
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I know one of these types. She’s fat, a bitch and no one likes her. except fgts
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wow. this site sucks now.
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//////////Reply by /0/\\/|_
//////////Posted August 19th, 2009 at 6:45 pm
@disappointed, agreed… havent been here in a while in hopes “it would get better”, great disappointed… can’t wait for lame “i am carles” “phase” to be over…
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//////////Reply by tao
//////////Posted August 19th, 2009 at 9:49 pm
@/0/\/|_, i am carles is the final phase.
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//////////Reply by cobones
//////////Posted August 20th, 2009 at 2:41 am
@tao, and then…< *pzzoooot*
commonly pawned off by her gay friends to sraight guys as “hey i know this really hot girl that likes you and she has big tits” (big tits due to being fat. not even curvy hot)
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correction Carles:
i think the first picture is of the acclaimed fatcore band, the Gossip
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I met a few gheys that acts like the ones on guy TV shows, the family guy where peter turns gay was very accurate. There are others that are ashamed of those ones so they try to act more “normal” which I’ve been seeing more in girls shows.
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aren’t all ghey dudes fag hags themselves?
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haha lol over those two people getting ‘aggressive’ in their attack/defense of the ‘necessity’ of hags having fags.
blank techno sounded pisssssssd
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//////////Reply by ne pas
//////////Posted August 20th, 2009 at 7:17 am
@cobones, they just need sum ‘conflict resolution’ [via jr high]
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hate the word fag hag. as much as i cant see a difference between male and female, i dont see one between heterosexual or homosexual or anything in between. what friends you have is just a matter of like and not like. lucky so many people think the same as me.
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//////////Reply by Chrises
//////////Posted August 20th, 2009 at 3:54 am
@rezlbezl_europe,
you honestly ” can’t see a difference between male and female”?? that is pretty goddamn ridiculous. I can think of a few huge differences just off the top of my head. pretty sure everything you say from now on “can’t be taken seriously.”
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//////////Reply by rezlbezl_europe
//////////Posted August 20th, 2009 at 4:13 am
@Chrises, of course the bodies are different, but leave everything away where the public and magazines and your parents and friends influenced you. all those cliches. and i wonder what kind of differences will be left then. the difference is only there because you make it.
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//////////Reply by Chrises
//////////Posted August 20th, 2009 at 4:51 am
@rezlbezl_europe,
I think the difference in our bodies make us fundamentally different. women can literally create new humans INSIDE OF THEIR BODIES. How can that not have a huge psychological effect.
I am not saying either group is superior or inferior, I’m just saying we’re both different and equally important, in our uniqueness.
The difference is not superficial, as you suppose. the difference is fundamental. I think any refusal to accept this obvious truth is inspired by mere ideology.
//////////Reply by rezlbezl_europe
//////////Posted August 20th, 2009 at 7:39 am
@rezlbezl_europe, first of all, i really appreciate, that you give a smart, elaborate answer and no insults. but you cant say definitely that either the one or the other is wrong or right. the whole discussion bases on two different theories, the one is, that you are influenced by your genes and history of mankind, the other, that you are just a product of your environment. but still, even if you believe in the power of genes, you cant prove that youre their slave and let them decide for you if (now im responding to the post) you only hang out with girls or boys or queer or whatever. “You can’t really identify with any of ur girl friends n e more, and you haven’t found the perfect man for you, so u turn to a group of homosexuals who are ‘longing’ for the same kind of dream man that u r” Who says that she ever wanted to have girlfriends, who says, that she has to find a perfect man? You can’t tell me that this is her nature, and caus she cant fulfil the requirements which her gender expects from her she’s hangin out with gay boys!!
of course the bodies are different, but leave everything away where the public and magazines and your parents and friends influenced you. all those cliches. and i wonder what kind of differences will be left then. the difference is only there because you make it.
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there are a lot of amazing fag hags
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That FGHG at the top of the post–there’s something irresistibly attractive about her. Maybe it’s the boobs. I really want to do her.
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Margaret Cho did a Fag Hag study about ten years ago. I think she still is one.
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I love my gays
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h8 girls who want to be my friend because i’m ‘ghey’
i think i just h8 women in general
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//////////Reply by lise
//////////Posted August 20th, 2009 at 11:33 pm
@carkeys,
thats funnie. i hate some gheys because they only wanna be my friend coz im half black & indie.
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I am currently living with a former fag hag or fruit fly in BK. Living in El Lay back in my late teens and early 20′s i had a thing for da hags, back then they had a fierce sense of style and were very hawt, maybe Parker Posey made it hip to be a fag hag. I even befriended a few gays to get to their hags. I was an Adidas wearing sk8er dude so the hags were out of my reach (remember in the 90′s they were hot). I feel that now the fag hag status is given to anyone.
My gf is now relegated to occasionally hangin’ out with White Collar O.G.’s (old gays) and no longer considers herself a “FG HG” because their biz associates and no longer binge drinks cos’ it conflicts with yoga.
So to answers your question the Fag Hag period does not last forever.
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What about the reverse? I’m the only fag in my crew, all other members, not hags, but widdows; perpetually Single, white(ones half black) blonde (for the most part) and scared to digest anything other than a 9 dolla pitcher. bros come and go weekly, and i think i’ve made out with all of them.
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Well my sister is a fag hag so this meme (?) really hits home. It’s really a sad path that a female follows to end up with the fag hag reputation. I feel bad for them. There should be a rehab for fag hags. You think cocaine is bad? Wait until you’re surrounded entirely by gay dudes and you haven’t gotten laid in two years…
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I prefer the term “fruit fly”
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when did they start letting beluga whales into greenhouse? seriously
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Totally.
fggt hgz usually have awesome personalities tho. It sounds retardedly cliche, but it’s true. My cousin is one and she’s fun as shit. I used to date one, too. They always tend to be on the short end of self-esteem and that’s what keeps them in that role of the fggt hag: their gaggle of fggts is non-threatening to their self-image.
Actually, the fggt hag is encouraged to wear ‘crazy shit’ by her fggts. And so she gets to ‘get out of her head’ and do ‘zany’ things in a ‘safe’ environment where no one will ‘judge’ her too harshly.
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http://www.queerty.com/nowadays-when-a-grown-woman-describes-herself-as-a-fag-hag-it-feels-like-shes-throwing-around-a-designer-label-thats-faded-from-fashion-20090818/
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This nasty fat bitch is DISGUSTING! I see her all the damn time and she is a hot mess. who lets her into these clubs? blind people?
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fruit fly
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why so much misogyny and insulting names to women who’re friends with gays? it’s really the same as homophobia. What’s so weird about a friendship between a girl and a gay guy that you have to make special, degrading names for that?
it really amuses me that the person who wrote this article goes into analysis of the reason why girls become “fag hags”–i think u know no sh*t, no offense, dude, just stick to analyzing ur bfs assh*le or something, leave wommen alone, Fag.
(take it from a TRANNYFAG)
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ps: also, some transphobic comments here amuse me. so ‘crisses’ u really think women r created to make a babies and this makes a huge “psychological difference”? :] even if they can break ur face with one arm? :XXX women r like baby machines, rite? well i used 2 b a woman at least that says on my birth certificate…. but i’d beat down in the street pretty much any other dude who’d say this shitt in my fucken face. have babies out of ur assh*le, betch. u’d b missing sum teeth of u talked that in my face
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this is just 4 little fags wannabe males like “crisses” (i cause use pple like u as a gym weight probbly). the presence of male or female junk down in underwear doesn’t mean a person has “male” or “female” brain. 1st some pple r born intersexed with extra chromosomes or 2 sets of or ambiguous genitalia. even genetic females can have “male” brains (due to testosterone exposure before birth, etc) and vice versa, gay males’ brains could be formed as “female” brain predominantly (hence transsexuals). this had been proven by numerous studies and needs no further discussion from pple who doesn’t have bio or med education. the junk that’s in underwear… well that shitt can be gotten rid of… to match the brainz.
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